第1158期：我们成长路上的5个技能 – 5 skills for personal development
今天不讲单词，跟你分享 Jim Rohn 提出的人生成长（personal development）需要学会的五个关键技能。每个技能下摘录了一些Jim Rohn的话，之后是一小段佛老自己的感悟。与君共勉。
1. absorb 吸收
Most people are trying to get through the day. I’ve got a better objective for you. Learn to get from the day. Not just get through it, get from it. Soak it up. Each day is a piece of the mosaic of your life. Don’t waste any. Treat it with care. See how much you can get from a day – how much advice, how much information, how much color, how much sight and sound to add to your worth and your wealth and your equity of mind.
佛老感悟：
人生的每个际遇都是唯一的，不可复制，不能重来，如日本茶道所说的一期一会。该来的就来了，该去的就去了。做什么事就百般专注地去做那件事，哪怕只是一个人走路，哪怕只是抽一根烟，哪怕只是发一会儿呆，都请你专注地去走路，去抽烟，去发呆。这种“吸收”的态度也是一种享受。
2. Respond 响应
Success is not just knowledge. Success is response to knowledge.
Success is not just experience. Success is emotion created from experience.
Responding to life means to let sad things make you sad, to let happy things make you happy, to let puzzling things puzzle you.
Let things that are difficult create difficulty for you. Respond.
佛老感悟：
任何事的发生背后都有我们无法理解的各种因素相互之间的作用，这大概就类似佛家所说的因缘际会。很多事发生了，对谁都一样，不一样的是同样的事发生在不同的人身上，往往产生不同的反应。人的不同，大多就在于此。做一个性情中人，允许自己被电影片段感动到流泪，放任自己被诗歌和美文震撼到怆然而涕下。这没什么不好，重要的是你对生活的反应就是那个真实的你。
3. Reflect 回顾
Take just a few minutes at the end of the day and go back over the day.
Find a place, if you can, to be alone, and just go back and think through the day.
Where have you been?
What did you see?
What did you hear?
What did you feel?
If you’ll just relive it, go back through it, I’m telling you it will add multiplied value to you.
Take a few hours at the end of the week, half a day at the end of the month, and a weekend at the end of the year.
Those are called times to reflect.
It’s to get more out of your past and invest it in your future.
When my father was about to turn 76, I said,”Dear father of mine, can you imagine how exciting it’s going to be to take the last 75 years of your life and invest them in your 76th?”
That’s an extraordinary thing to learn, how to take more of you and invest it in the next conversation, invest it in the next decision, invest it in the next activity.
佛老感悟：
很多人喜欢回望过去，大多数人这样做的时候内心是充满了懊悔和羞愧的，所谓的往事不堪回首。
也有一种回望，会令你充满希望和欣慰。这种回望，不要你过多去假设“如果当初怎样怎样”，而是要你把过去的所有日子统一打个包，作为你明天的出发点，就好像把你一生到今天为止的一切的一切都堆成一副梯子或阶梯，由你明天站上去好享受更高更好的明天。
4. Act 行动
Ten years from now you will surely arrive. The question, where?
Now is the time to fix the next 10 years.
Fix a better course.
The activity of learning, the activity of mind, health disciplines, wealth disciplines, culture disciplines, all values come from discipline.
Ideas put into disciplined activity create value.
佛老感悟：
所谓的行动，不必非要惊天动地，或者非要等到万事俱备时才起身。很多人总在等万事俱备，其实他们只是嘴上这样说说了罢了，只是懒惰和拖延的藉口。万事真的俱备了，他们又会说好了现在只欠东风了。可是东风来了，他们又会说哎呀风太大了，要不算了吧。
一切的关键只在于计划+行动。做好了计划，需要立即行动，立刻，马上，莫等待。如果再加上坚持不懈的毅力，世上只怕很少有你做不到的事了。
5. Share 分享
Sharing is a unique human capacity.
There are many ways to share.
Sharing makes you bigger than you are. If you have a full glass of water, can the glass hold any more water? The answer is yes, but only if I pour out what’s already in it. That’s what I’m asking you to do. If you’re full of ideas, if you’re full of good things, I’m asking you to pour them out. As you do, I promise you, more will be poured in.
佛老感悟：
分享有很多种形式和内容。你的知识、财富、笑容，都可以分享。你在开心时，从不担心冲别人微笑一下自己的快乐会减少，因此你不担心对别人微笑。但你会在意跟别人分享你的知识吗？会担心别人学会你的知识反而超过你吗？财富呢？你愿意分享吗？
Sharing makes you bigger than you are. 这是我最欣赏的 Jim Rohn 名言之一。
我们还没学会开心、放心地分享一切，只是因为我们还不够广大——We are not big enough.
